Tuesday, July 01, 2008 the last goodbye.

my yeye(爷爷) passed away on last monday morning. i said my last "yeye, byebye" on saturday night before leaving the hospital with my sis. he was half conscious, but he heard me biding farewell.
i was never close to him, although i spent a lot of my childhood in the shop with him around. the only words that i usually said to him was calling him "yeye" in the morning and "yeye, bye bye" at the end of the day.
all these years, i heard and saw a lot of stuff about him, living in this big family of mine was never that easy. i knew, i was never even near to "one of his favourite grandchildren" list. i was neither smart nor did i inherit his character. i knew he wanted to transfer me out of beatty to a better sch years ago and don't understand why my mum let me took fashion design. he told my aunt last year, "tingting would have graduate with A levels by this time if she had went into jc".
perhaps, the only thing that might had made him proud was my passion for running ( he was a marathon runner even up to his 70s).
i remembered, the closest we ever been was during sec 1 when i taught him how to use computer. i must admit he was a fast learner for a 77 years old then.
sigh. i never knew its so hard to say goodbye.
the following is an eulogy written by my 15 years old cousin in the states, i recited the translated chinese version on the day of cremation.
The Last Goodbye
I remember when I was whole, empty of sorrow,
Taking everything for granted,
Then you left for a better place,
To reach your higher ground.
I couldn’t say goodbye,
Neither can I speak to you anymore,
But I know you are still there waiting,
For me to reach my higher ground.
This is my last goodbye to Gong Gong. I’m sorry I can’t be there, but if I could, this is what I would say.
Thank you for everything you’ve done for me. You were a brother, a father, a husband and a grandfather for us all. I’m sure everyone here has a story on how Gong Gong has touched our lives. He shared countless good memories with me, his favorite Ben Chin (yeah, laugh). I can remember one of the most recent things we did together.
Two years ago, we went to Nanjing and Suzhou. We had a small tour around eastern China. We both shared the same interest and we both asked the tour guide about the same things. Along with the questions, he told me about his stories. Even though some of his stories were boring, I still enjoyed the experience we had.
Gong Gong was a very strong man, in both ways, mentally and physically. He was really caring and he always questioned me about my studies. Sometimes it would become very repetitive, but I knew that he meant well.
He was also really physically fit. Everyone has a game that they play, and his was running. If he couldn’t run, he would walk. He invited me into his game by bringing me to the track every Sunday morning. After that, I got rewarded even more with a trip to KFC for porridge. I think I have found my game, and even though it isn’t running, I inherited his determination and I am able to play at his level.
Another fond memory I have about him was the enjoyment I had when I rode at the back of his pick-up truck. I recall always asking him to bring me with him whenever he was going to breakfast. My mum would always worry that I would fall off the back of his truck and would always try to tell Gong Gong not to let me sit at the back. Thank goodness, he never listened to her!
In 2003, he came to Eden Prairie to visit. We went to Lake Minnetonka to go fishing. We went out on a pontoon and started fishing. After 15 minutes or so, a fish bit his line. We pulled it up, and it was a bullhead catfish. In the next hour, he caught another bullhead, but I on the other hand, caught nothing. I thought again, the fishes were biting his line; he must have had a special way to do this.
A week after the fishing, we started making some homemade candy. At that time, it was the middle of summer and it was really hot, about 37 celsius everyday. We had to roll the candy outside, and even in the blistering sun, and with the annoying bees, he still helped us. That batch of candy was the toughest candy I have ever eaten, but it was the best.
In his own way, he was able to show us how important he was to us. We may no longer see him on earth, but we are blessed with these great moments that we have shared with him. We will always have a place for him in our hearts. I am very thankful that I have such a great person as my Gong Gong.
Your image in the dictionary,
Your life was more than ordinary,
Can’t stop the spirits when they need you,
Your life was more than just a read-thru.
最后的道别
回忆起那无忧无虑的我, 总把事事当成必然, 您此时却走入完美的他乡, 前往属于您的高原。
没及时与您道别, 再也无法与您细谈, 然而我知您在那遥远的他乡, 等待我登上属于我的高山。
这是我给公公最后的道别。很遗憾我无法亲临。如果能在,这是我想对公公说的 – 谢谢您为我做的一切。
他是我们的兄长,父亲,丈夫,与慈爱的公公。我想这里所有的人都曾被他感动。他与我分享了无数美好的回忆;如他最喜欢的Ben Chin (你们尽管笑吧)。记得跟公公最近做的一件事,是去年一起到南京与苏州旅游。我们旅途中有着共同的兴趣,问导游同样的问题。每个问题背后,公公都会讲述关于他的故事。虽然有些故事有些乏味,但他无数的经历却也让我雀跃万分。
公公的精神力量是强盛的。他非常关心我,常常督促我学习。虽然有时有些唠叨,但我知道这都是为我好。公公也很强壮。每个人都有他喜欢的运动,而公公擅长的是跑步。他即使跑累了也继续步行,不像那些精力充沛却懒得动的人。公公每个星期日早上都会带我去操场跑步。之后还带我去KFC呢!从公公的坚持我也找到了我喜欢的运动,虽然不是跑步,但他把他的那份坚持遗留了给我,让我也能像他一样不屈不挠。 另一个让我回味无穷的经历是他让我乘他的卡车。我会常要他出外吃早餐时让我乘他的卡车。这让我觉得我额外得到他的宠爱。
2003年,他到Eden Prairie 来探望我。我们到Minnetonka钓鱼去。在浮桥上才不过15分钟公公就有鱼上钩。我们一起把一头大头鲶鱼捞了上来。半个钟后,他又抓到一只!而我却一无所获。公公钓鱼也真有办法!过了一周后,我们一起制糖果。当时是炎热的夏日,气温都在37摄氏度。然而我们必须在烧人肌肤的室外卷着糖果,还有那可恶的蜜蜂呢!公公也不怕辛苦,陪我们一起干。虽然这是最难制作的一批糖果,却也是我这一生吃到最好吃的!
公公纵然没有表现过,但从他的举止,还是让我们感受到他在我们心里有多重要。就算已经没法再见到他了,他留给我们的种种回忆就像是他深深的祝福。他永远常伴我们心中。我们很庆幸有这样一位伟大的公公!
字典里您的影像, 您非凡的生命, 您不被阻挠的扶助, 您的一生远远超越文字所能记载
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